A couple of months back I was walking through Leicester Square late on a Saturday night, dodging promoters and pickpockets at every turn, when a couple of girls (19-20 years old) came up to me.
“Excuse me”, one said, staring into my eyes, so inebriated I could have filled a shot glass with her vodka sweat.
“No, it’s okay”, she said, dismissing me and walking away with her friend, laughing.
A year or two ago this would have crushed me. I would have wondered what I’d done wrong for weeks. Regardless of her intentions (had she continued with her fascination I would not have gone along with it), I would have gone over the events in my head, trying to figure out what I could have possibly done wrong.
Luckily nowadays I have self worth on my side! It may not sound like much, but self-worth is ultra-powerful. It will not give you the ability to fly, and as far as I’ve seen their is no invisibility shield attached, but self-worth doesn’t go in for those gimmicks.
When you have self-worth, you’re untouchable.
SELF WORTH (n) dignity, self-respect, self-regard (the quality of being worthy of esteem or respect) ”it was beneath his dignity to cheat”; “showed his true dignity when under pressure” — Princeton University
Self-worth is that feeling you have about yourself. Ask yourself…
- Can I do this?
- Am I good enough?
- Do I trust myself?
To have self-worth means you are able to answer all those questions with a massive yes because you are taking your experiences from inside yourself, not the reactions of other people (on the other side of the spectrum, it’s possible to be a multi-million dollar Hollywood actor, and still have a low self-worth, despite hoards of fans telling you otherwise).
How untouchable are you?
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There is a magic to the untouchable, defiantly! You get to skip all the annoyance of people constantly poking you metaphorically.
I keep hoping one of these days they´ll come up with a vaccination against low self-esteem. What a better world it would be.. maybe even a placebo shot would do! Incidentally, great blog posts are probably the closest thing we have to free treatments for building up peoples self worth. Thanks Dr. Ben.
And to answer your question, I am completely 100% untouchable. A magic hologram of a person!
You’re welcome! I’ll be sure never to poke you again (the amount of times I’ve said that). Here’s to the holographic untouchables!
Ooooh Jona, I really like your hair, and I love your blog =)
Ben : I have self worth plenty, but I get picked on a lot. My phone(s) and wallet(s) got stolen twice last year =( My mother says people just look at me and know the can take for a ride =( when actually I can stand up for myself if/when I need to. But I’m also a very open, loving, approachable person, I don’t want to have to be cold, just so people will leave me alone. Maybe I’ve got you wrong?
Those are things I do like to hear!! Thanks :) Also, this might be out of line, but your mother sounds like questionable authority!
And Ben, this proofs that your readers indeed receive notifications on their comments (that, or I’m totally stalking your blog..)
Tracy! Couldn’t agree more on Jona’s hair and blog, she brightens up these dull black and white pages for me!
You don’t have to become a cold person. Remain open, loving and approachable. That’s you :) If you don’t mind, I recommend you take a look at my friend Caroline’s blog http://lifeislimitless.com/ she is bloody wonderful.
I’m pretty sure a pink and blue haired girl will NEVER make a practical stalker!
Jona: Hahaha. Thanks for the advice, and yes I don’t always take her advice, but I don’t like having my stuff stolen either =P
And yes, the notification works, but only if you tick the lil checkbox.
Ben:Thanks for the recco, I’ll check it out. Would really like to keep being myself =)
I’m untouchable, I walk around with a panache on my head…
panache definition;
1. Flamboyant confidence of style or manner.
2. tuft or plume of feathers, esp. as a headdress or on a helmet.
See what I did there? 1 up for Ross! yeah……..
I reckon #2 would be pretty hard to do without #1 ;)
Great blog Benjamin :) it was lovely meeting you on Saturday
Neena x
Likewise! Dave keeps some good company.
No problem :)